Kinder than essential | Seth’s Weblog

If it’s simply the correct amount of essential kindness, it’s probably not kindness. It’s pleasantness.

If the folks in our circle start to expertise habits that’s kinder than essential, the expectations for what’s essential will ratchet ahead, making all the things extra nice.

And… being form is a stunning method to spend your day.

[Compare this to an alternative: “be as selfish as you can get away with.” Hardly worth going down that path.]

April 6, 2026